I WANT ONLY THOSE PEOPLE AROUND ME WHO ARE IN LOVE-----OSHO

If a woman cannot surrender to any man, it is not because men are lacking or men are not there. It is only because the woman has not grown, because only a grown-up can surrender because ONLY A GROWN-UP CAN BE COURAGEOUS ENOUGH TO SURRENDER. The woman has remained childish, retarded. Then with every man there will be problem.

AND IF YOU CANNOT SURRENDER IN LOVE, it will be very difficult for you to surrender at all. With a Master also there is a surrender, and a greater surrender than any man can ever demand, or any woman can ever demand. Because a man demands the surrender of your body if he is only related to you because of sex. If he loves you also, then he demands the surrender of your mind. But a Master demands of you -- mind, body, soul -- your total being. Less than that will not do.

THERE ARE THREE POSSIBILITIES. Whenever you come to a Master, the first possibility is TO BE RELATED WITH HIM INTELLECTUALLY, through the head. That is not much. You may like his ideas, but that doesn't mean that you like him. Liking the ideas, his attitudes, is not liking him. You can take the ideas separate; there is no need to fall in any relationship with the Master....

There is another possibility: YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH THE HEART. Then there is no question what he says; the question is he himself. If you are intellectually related to me, sooner or later you will have to go away. Because I WILL GO ON CONTRADICTING MYSELF -- one idea suits you, another may not suit. This idea you like, that idea you don't like -- and I will go on contradicting. And I contradict for a particular reason: because I WANT ONLY THOSE PEOPLE AROUND ME WHO ARE IN LOVE, not those who are intellectually convinced by me. To throw them away, I have to remain continuously paradoxical.

THIS IS A SCREENING, A VERY SUBTLE SCREENING. I never say to you that "Go away." You simply go on your own. And you feel good because this man was contradictory so you have left.

ONLY THOSE WHO ARE RELATED TO ME WITH THEIR HEART will not bother about the contradictions. They will not bother what I say; they look directly to me; they know me, so I cannot deceive them. They know me directly, not through what I say -- saying is not very important.

Look at the distinction: A PERSON WHO IS CONVINCED BY MY IDEAS is related to me through the ideas; A PERSON WHO IS IN LOVE WITH ME may be related to my ideas, but through me; and that makes a great difference.

THEN THERE IS A THIRD TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP which is possible only after the second type of relationship has happened. When you are really in love, LOVE BECOMES SO NATURAL, IT DISAPPEARS.

When I say "disappears" I don't mean that it disappears, I only mean that YOU ARE NO MORE AWARE THAT IT IS THERE. Are you aware of your breathing? When something goes wrong, yes -- when you are running fast and breathing is hard and you are out of breath, yes. But when you are resting in your chair and everything is good, are you aware of the breathing? No, there is no need. When there is a headache, only then you become aware of head -- something goes wrong. When the head is perfectly healthy, you are headless. This is the definition of health: WHEN THE BODY IS PERFECTLY HEALTHY, you don't know it... as if it is not there; you become bodiless. And this is the definition of perfect love also. LOVE IS THE ULTIMATE, THE HIGHEST HEALTH, because love makes one whole. When you love a Master, by and by, you completely forget about love. It has become so natural, like breathing.

THEN A THIRD TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP COMES INTO BEING which is neither of the head nor of the heart, but of the being itself. Heart and head are two layers; hidden behind them is THE CENTER OF YOUR BEING. You may call it the atma, the self, the soul or whatsoever you like. Because there, no distinction of words is anymore meaningful. You can call it no-self, anatma -- that will also do.

HEAD IS THE BEGINNING; don't get stuck there. HEART IS THE PASSAGE -- pass through it, but don't make a house there also. BEING TO BEING -- there are no boundaries then. Then in fact, THE DISCIPLE AND THE MASTER ARE NOT TWO. They exist as two, but one consciousness flows from one shore to another.

OSHO
Yoga: The Alpha and the Omega
Vol 3, Ch #2: Ego's attraction
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